One Day at a Time.

[ALL6785]

Bethie,
I think you and fig should come up sometime in the middle of winter. I'll fill you ladies up with some liquid courage and take you out for an off land drive and cure this whole ice phobia thing... Fear not, they say that 3 feet of ice can support a freight train. My tractor weighs almost 5 tons and i've had it on the ice many times. A few years my friend was pulling fish houses off the lake with his backhoe that weighs over 7 tons. You just need to know where you're at and what the ice conditions are.

It's true that you hear about cars that go through the ice but it's usually some idiot that got lost and drove to close to a spring or water inlet or something.


Rhubarb custard pie! Mmmmmm that sounds good!

How's your singing voice fig? 50 bottles of wine on the wall, 50 bottles of wiiiiiiiine! Take one down, pass it around, 49 bottles of wine on the wall....

[KarenMarieS]

All
Your wines sound sooooo good!!
and Figs pie sounds awesome too!! yummmmmmmm

Everything quiet on the ex front?

Drop me a line when you have time

Have a good night!

[ALL6785]

Hi Karen, Yes everything is quiet on the EX front, Hmmmm which reminds me that today would have been our 21st wedding anniversary. I always thought we were going to be the couple that was going to beat the odds and actually make it.

I think I must really be making progress because today really isn't having any noticable emotional impact on me. Or maybe I'm just so dammaged that I don't have feelings anymore. Either way it's nice to be able to get through days like this without all the stress that I experienced in the past.

[Committed2Him]

ALL,

Happy UnAnniversary! As for no noticeable impact I've got my theory and it has to do with wine sampling but it's only a theory.

Seriously, I am glad the impact of these triggers is lessening over the years. My woudda couda unanniversary was 2/24 and I was out unexpectedly meeting an Ex girlfriend at a party as 2/24 rolled in. So, my mind was on someone else and those possibilities instead of my X (plus I had a great night of dancing!) The more busy we are living our life, the better off we are, right oh, vino master?

Hey, I am the adventurous type so count me in on that ice driving! Never been in a real tractor, never breathed in clean air so I am up for it!!!!

Sorry to hear about X's bout with depression. I know when we heal, we really don't wish bad on any of them and when it comes, we do feel sorry for them.

Looking for updates to see what's new in your life. The decreasing drama for many of us means we are doing better individually and as a group- who would of thunk it?

[ALL6785]

Hey C2

Cool, 2/24 is my Birthday. As far as updates and new in my life there isn't a whole lot to tell but since you've been away for a bit... I did meet a lady friend that I go do things with, we get along great, we communicate at a very high level, and enjoy spending time with each other. It's good to have someone to spend time with but I just don't feel any fireworks going off between us... and yes I have been very honest about this with her, we have talked about it several times and she keeps telling me that we are on the same page. I was starting to think that she might be getting too attached for my comfort and I mentioned it and she said it was funny because she was thinking the same thing about me. She has been single a long time, I’m sure she could have been married a long time ago if she wanted to be but she has a very full and comfortable life and seems content to be on her own.

I don't know why I don't feel more……………. Oh I don’t even know how to say it. I just feel numb, I enjoy doing things but if she never called again or didn’t want to do things together anymore I would be ok with that also. Sometimes I wonder if I have just completly lost the ability to fall in love but then again maybe I just need more time. My life is really starting to straighten out but I’m not ready to share anyone else’s problems just yet. Maybe I’m still just enjoying my freedom, I don’t know, I don’t think I even care. All I know is that as long as I feel good and I’m happy it doesn’t matter if I’m alone or with someone.

Other news… Farming will start soon so I’m excited about that. It won’t be long until S17 is out of school for the summer and I am looking forward to spending time together. I’m still keeping my eyes and ears open for opportunities and wondering what God has in store for me next.

Al

[fig]

Hey C2

I don't know why I don't feel more……………. Oh I don’t even know how to say it. I just feel numb, I enjoy doing things but if she never called again or didn’t want to do things together anymore I would be ok with that also. Sometimes I wonder if I have just completly lost the ability to fall in love but then again maybe I just need more time. My life is really starting to straighten out but I’m not ready to share anyone else’s problems just yet. Maybe I’m still just enjoying my freedom, I don’t know, I don’t think I even care. All I know is that as long as I feel good and I’m happy it doesn’t matter if I’m alone or with someone.

ALL...this actually sounds healthy

like you are good
having fun with someone

but wouldn't fall apart if they left

you feel complete on your own

that is what we all should strive for
completeness on our own

it's too much stress for someone to fill that role for us

[Committed2Him]

ALL,

2/24? your Bday? HAPPY BELATED! (please, don't put on your suit again, I can wait until next year). Truthfully, it is also my only sister's bday. I proposed at a staged birthday party I was hosting for my sister and we decided a year was about right for an engagement so we picked 2/24 which was a Saturday in 1990. Funny thing is, my D was official on my only brother's bday 10/17/06, how's that for irony?

I agree with fig, sounds really healthy and a good place to be. One of the divorce care books I read stressed being "whole" in our singleness and shared the truth that too many people are looking for something in a spouse to "complete" them, something they are missing.

Friendship is a good place to be and who knows, one day she might start to look like a tractor to you. That is, you might start thinking, "Man, I could be without her for a season but I couldn't do without her for the rest of my life!" That is the point where we will see you strolling down some watermellon patch, hand in hand, stop and get on a knee, as if to tie a shoe, reach down behind a mellon and pull out a ring. Soon there after, we'll see you and Mrs. ALL riding off into the sunset in your John Deere with tin cans attatched and a sign that says, "just hitched."

Ah, don't it just make your heart melt.

[KarenMarieS]

Fig is right All
Thats what we strive for , its not a bad thing at all, I felt totally the same way - was not only ok w/ being on my own but liked it. Enjoy this time in your life, and remember how you survived the big D!

When the time is right, someone may come along and just think- you will be ever so ready emotionally- cause you learned to love yourself and be with yourself first!

They were disucssing something similar to this , and later love compared to younger love on The View today, did you see it? lol
it was interesting actually

Have a good day Farmer All

[fig]

I will sooooooooooooo trade pie for wine!!!

and

I think I had an accident when you said you drove your 5 ton thing out on the lake



that is me fainting

it's making my eyes water

deep breaths
singing the ABC song

[ALL6785]

Thanks Fig,
I hope your right, I feel pretty good about where I'm at emotionally right now. I feel secure enough to get out and really enjoy doing things together. I feel down to earth enough that I'm not afraid of falling off the deep edge. I feel confidant enough to be honest and share what I'm feeling and what I'm not feeling. I just hope we stay on the same page, I would rather go it alone than end up with someone getting hurt feelings.

C2

and who knows, one day she might start to look like a tractor to you.

C2 you're a nut! Yup, I can see it all now, I'm going to call her up and say

"hey baby, you know you look just like a tractor! how bout you put on that green a yellow dress and..."

boy if that doesn't just oozzze with romance! I think that should be my new pickup line, that otta just draw em in like flies. (wasn't there a thread about flirting and pickup lines on the board here someplace) It's good to have you back C2, you crack me up. I hate to say this but if I get to a melon patch I'll be thinking WINE not PROPOSAL.


Hi Karen,
That's my rule #1. Happiness comes from within!

What's The View??? Actually I'm just not much on watchig TV unless it's a good movie or a football game but if you say it was an interisting show I'll take your word for it.