I have tried not to put them in the middle. But H did by calling the house and putting ow on the phone to them so they would feel awkward talking to her in front of me. I have just explained to the kids that I do not want that to happen again, so I have told their dad that I do not want that to happen !
That is all that I did with my kids. However they still feel like they have been put in the middle. So what I was trying to say was that just mention it to H when he oversteps your boundaries. Don't mention it to the kids at all.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
