Cinders,

Please be careful. This is between you and your H.
Keep the children out of adult matters. Protect them and make it safe for them to express whatever they may want or need to express even if it causes your emotions to swing wildly.

Let Them Be Little <-- watch.listen.reflect.

~ swl

Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}