Please help...need MLC advice

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[quote=momof2girls]Wish I could get inside his head.

You need to stop this thinking, it is what it is and you are trying to control his desicions/movements and making yourself anxious trying to change his mind.

You are right, and I know this.

I know there is nothing I can do right now to control him. But I do think my actions now will have an impact on the future. IF he ever pulls his head out of his *ss, my actions now will matter then. I just don't want to do anything that would make the possibility of a R harder in the future.

It's not even that I want to get in his head---I want a crystal ball! LOL!

momof2 gave you wonderful advice. The 4nowH and I went to C one last time after he dropped the D word on me, I vented there and he basically said "i'm just here for you, I just want this (M) over with", so basically your H c ould be going just to humor the court and follow orders and say he went.

The court did not order our C, but I do think it's possible he agreed just so he could show me, the judge and the L's that he "tried." I know he probably is going just to prove to me that it's over, but I hope we can at least learn some communication skills from it to be able to co-parent better.

Don't put too much hope into that session, I know you wish something would light up on his brain, but chances are, after all that has happened, it might not happen at C or at all. Trying to keep your feet off the ground, don't mean to be a sti ck in the mud but honey, it's true.

Thanks, Cat. I know you are just trying to keep me grounded. I think that hope and expectations are different. I'm trying not to have any expectations, but I'm not yet ready to give up hope.