Hope, I like the fact that you two are communicating thru this crisis. I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you right now. I remember how hurt I was, when my W left for Florida five years ago.
It sounds like she's confused, depressed, and unhappy and is going to need some space in some form for now.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."