I am sorry that you have reached this point, only the 2 of you can truly reach whats right for you and for right now. I hope that if you do seperate that it brings you what you hope for, and I know that it wount be a decision that is reached lightly. I think that keeping the lines of communication open is what it important right now, and even in your separation you should try and to continue to dialogue, set up coffee dates, over over the phone a couple of times a week just to keep you both in touch with feeling etc.
((((((hugs to you both))))))))))
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!
