Hi Luckily, the only after effects my girls have had are wanting to be with H constantly. I think D6 worries more than usual about when he is coming home.
I need to assure her that Dad is working and will be home later.
OW sounds like a prize! Why do they all have the same characteristics?? If she is not sure if she wants your children involved in her R with your H then she will run for the hills!
My H's OW "forced" (my H did not have a backbone!!)him to file for D and always pressured him about meeting the kids...thankfully he has the sense to keep them out of it. Part of that I think was the fact he didn't really want any part of his children either. I guess the responsibility interfered with his new life.
I would bite my tongue constantly and I did blow up at him a few times...I told him I hoped and prayed that his daughters never met someone like him...I know now, that really bothered him! At the time I meant it.
I never called him and he missed out on some holidays and birthdays...all of which he regrets deeply now. I am a supportive wife but he needs to work through those guilty feelings on his own. I don't rub it in his face...in a way I do feel bad.
H left when our youngest was 9 months old. He missed her first birthday and only spent about 1 hour with her on her first Christmas. I treasure those memories, he will not have them.
Do everything for you and your children and make memories you can cherish! It makes you feel good!
