I am being unreasonable telling W that its a complicated scheme which won't provide the kids any more stability than any other custody sharing agreement... And W's life is so complicated having to work so that I don't have to pay large amounts of alimoney and child support!? Double WTF? Lucky for me that the system here works on your achievable income and not current income, so the fact that W has a decent job right now will work against that last statement of hers.
And its great to see W's true nature pop up again, the vicious self-serving person who isn't interested in anything but her own agenda. This is the person that has trampled a path through our married life over and over whenever things didn't go her way, telling me that I'm controlling and passive aggressive if I don't immediately agree to everything. I am far too tired of letting W do whatever she wants, specially if its going to impact myself and the kids in a negative way just to make her situation easier!
I don't for a minute believe that she has been leaving the kids alone with me so I had time with them, she left them with me because she wanted to go out, party and spend time with her OM, nothing to do with us at all, its all HER. Very annoyed at how petty she is being again, happening more often now that her options are shrinking, rats from a sinking ship mentality sets in etc.
If she has so much of a problem being around me then she should leave, if she cares for the kids so much and wants to spend time with them she should maybe work at spending time with them rather than the OM every chance she gets. I can't believe how she can say how she wants to spend time with them, wants me to have time with them and then is off to spend the night with OM, something that is purely for her own self.
Last night she complained that she was feeling tired and ill, I gave her some flu meds and she said she would finish some things up and then go to bed... 12:30 she was still awake, woke up early and called to cancel her gym appointment, something she also doesn't have enough time for anymore. I've been having trouble sleeping again so I had a good excuse to be up, but she was going to bed early because she had a long day today and didn't. I think you might be able to see some kind of trend here, W is spinning herself out of control and now its my fault that life is too hectic, having to choose to spend her limited time with OM rather than her children.
And a side note about W, her brother has a new girlfriend, W sees pics of her and immediately starts going on about how fat she is! Who cares if she is big/fat if her brother loves her its his choice, and obviously it isn't a problem for him since he is going out with her? But no, W had to make comments to her mom about it too, and got a right talking to about how its not her place to criticise her brother's girlfriend. I think W is looking to take a swipe at someone after having battled (and pretty much won, lost over 70lbs, well done W!) to get weight under control and get back into shape.
Nature of the beast, alien infestation, chaos incarnate...
It is becoming more and more obvious that W's motives are purely self serving, like this trip for myself and the boys to visit my sister in the USA. Ok, it is a great opportunity to let the kids spend some time with their cousins who they never see, but its 3+ weeks of alone time for W and her OM. W can't stand being away from the children but we'll be gone for most of a month and its all ok.
Guess I'm waiting for the end of May (bonus time!) so we can pay for the mediator/lawyer/etc and get this thing rolling because she is not able to discuss anything without launching into personal attacks and recriminations.
Wonder if I can get some decent headphones for my birthday, I bought myself some last year (which recently broke and have almost doubled in price now). Will no doubt get another yelling at because I bought a game today for the kids, Mr Driller: Drill Spirits for the DS. Will keep it under wraps until a good time I think, not really any time during the week for them to play since its 6pm pickup from daycare and in bed by 8pm... dinner, bathing, story and *blink* its all gone again. And this is the "alone time" that W is claiming to miss? I think realistically the kids should stay with me (yes, I have to work out some way of getting them to/from school etc, can't manage both easily) during the week and with W on alternating weekends, she can pay child support. That might sound very controlling/passive aggressive, but I'm at home every night (except when I have arranged to visit a friend or go to a movie etc, and that isn't often, usally on a weekend day too) and W is not, and isn't likely to be with OM in the picture.
W is also expected to travel for her job, can't see how she is going to manage to take care of the kids 3+ days a week if she is supposed to be a flexible PA for a big shot in a big company... Yesterday she called just after 4pm to ask if I could pick the kids up from the sitter, called again at 6:30pm to say she was almost ready to go, again at 7:15pm to say she just got on the bus... I had already made and almost finished eating dinner with the kids by the time she actually got home. If that is an example of W's working life then there is no contest here, I have a 9-5 job, she is expected to work early/late/weekends/travel...
Ok, 5 million word rant over, I think I've done my cathartic exercise for now, hope when I get home the whole thing doesn't go into round 3-15...
Me: 35 W: 34 S8 & S5 M: 11 IDLY: 08/2007
"Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose" - Janis Joplin, Me and Bobby McGee
"Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about dancing in the rain!"
