I had to do a 180 on my friends and mother because their "help" was just not helping. Some of my friends and mother just tell me to pack up my stuff and leave; that he is a horrible person and that I don't deserve what I am going through.
I don't think I was a terrible wife, but I don't think I was the greatest during the marriage, so one part of me doesn't think I am a victim at all. That part my friends (specially the ones living away) don't know.
The people that love me don't know exactly what happened between my husband and I, they just see him as a coldhearted men who decided one day to abandon ship.
My father, interestingly, being always cold and distant, has been the only person to shed some real light to all this. He sees things in the DB line of thought and from a male point of view.
It used to be that when I called my folks, my father would promptly hand the phone to my mom, now I request the opposite.
My mom sometimes just makes the matters worse by saying she hates my husband and that I real strong woman would have left. My best friend thinks I am addicted to books instead of just living life. Either "help" does not give me guidelines to make things better, so I just stopped telling them anything about my love life.
