Affair is over and WW is responding

[Hope4us]

Thanks Good. I apologize if I sounded a little defensive. I hear what you are saying. I'm going to talk to my counselor tomorrow and find out his take on the timing of everything. Maybe I just tell the kids the truth and tell them that I don't know how much longer I can take the disrespect and abuse. Trust me, it's abuse. If he recommends that I tell the kids without setting my boundaries of what I will live with, then I'll take his advise. I just think through this whole thing, WW has used how much I care about her and the kids to manipulate me into allowing her to continue this affair. And that has to stop, one way or another.

I've read elsewhere that waywards don't really love the OP, it's that they love how the OP makes them feel. So how do you break that addiction? She either needs to wake up on her own or be woken up. And she's got plenty of evidence that OM is a serial cheater, but she just thinks "she's different". I don't know if I posted earlier or not, but OMW thinks OM has another one lined up in his new location already. So what can I do to protect myself and my kids? Get the truth out there and set my boundaries. I will not allow her to use me anymore.

And you're right about the pride thing. WW is the most prideful, stubborn creature ever created and I can see her figuring out she made a mistake, but not coming back because that would take her admitting a mistake. If she does leave, I can imagine her and OM ending soon, but her going looking for the next "love of my life" instead of returning to those who really love her. And if that happens, its sad, but I can't control her so she's just going to have to figure things out on her own.