Affair is over and WW is responding

[Hope4us]

Yes, I've asked her many times and I get the typical fog babble. Never loved me, Been miserable for years, This is all about her happiness, you know the drill.

Am I pissed that her affair has not ended in my timeline? Um...YES. She's been rubbing it in my nose for going on a year now (although I only got her to admit it 7 months ago).

I know my posts may seem full of anger, and that is there, but I'm not going to tell the kids to punish her. I haven't done anyting to punish her the past year. Do you think grown kids should be lied to? Do you think that by not telling them what's going on it's going to HELP them? If you equate this affair to a drug addiction (of what ever kind), you'll know that the best cure for an addict is INTERVENTION. I really, really don't want to hurt my kids and I would do anything to not have them go through this, but I haven't said a word to them all this time just so I could protect them from the hurt. And it's obvious to me that WW is planning on trying to manipulate things so she can at some point integrate OM into their lives. And can anyone seriously tell me that I should not do everything in my power to protect my kids from an alcoholic, abusive OM?

I've asked her about counseling many times and she replies "I don't believe in that stuff". Of course you don't because you don't want to hear how messed up you are. I think you are right about the self confidence. And I don't know why not. She is smart, funny and previous to this affair, a blast to be around. But she told me OM makes her feel confident.