So, then we get all depressed (and dramatic, of course)..."who can we trust, why are people like this...." We CAN trust ourselves, your kids, our families, our friends. That's a lot.
I guess I am joining the party late, but uh ..... so you are still on his family plan .... and he can see a monthly detail call log of our passionate all night talks?????
For those that don't know, yes I am kidding. No, this is not a dating forum.
Lissie, do you really want him to have access to what might need to be private parts of your life? Have you looked into any other "almost affordable" cell programs just for your phone?
Or, have you considered becoming a family plan member to someone else in your life, like one of those wonderful bros?
Credit cards and financials are also important to deal with soon, but maybe the cell phone thing is more immediate if you can swing it.
These things will always happen. We will always have some kind of link.............so many memories. My memories still bring me sadness even after 6 years. The trick is find what works for you to get over it as fast as you can, if that takes venting so be it..............all a part of healing. Just remember, think of you and your children. You save, you work hard on healing, you remember your blessings. He can spend all his money on O/W and let's see who's better off in the long run.
My bet's on YOU chica lol.
Karen, I went to post on your thread and it's locked up, had another story about the Ex recently, he's right there with yours, CRAZY.
I remember the little "links" as I left. I remember my speech as I walked out the door...
"And that's it and that's the only thing I need, is this. I don't need this or this. Just this ashtray. And this paddle game, the ashtray and the paddle game and that's all I need. And this remote control. The ashtray, the paddle game, and the remote control, and that's all I need. And these matches. The ashtray, and these matches, and the remote control and the paddle ball. And this lamp. The ashtray, this paddle game and the remote control and the lamp and that's all I need. And that's all I need too. I don't need one other thing, not one - I need this. The paddle game, and the chair, and the remote control, and the matches, for sure. And this. And that's all I need. The ashtray, the remote control, the paddle game, this magazine and the chair".
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
Your accidentally opened the bill and saw something that hurt. You were flooded with emotions... and that's because what you saw was an emotional trigger. Your brain remembered the awful feeling of finding things out when this all started to unfold. And you learned something you'd rather not know. OF COURSE IT'S GONNA HURT! Yes, it's been two years, but that doesn't mean that all the emotions are gone.
As for the "family" plan. Forget the word "family". Think of that word simply as phone company's marketing strategy. That's just how they bundle the cell phone plan and try to up-sell customers to spend more. The term "famly plan" came up in some stuffy board room with the phone company execs who were trying to figure out how to increase revenue. So, try to think of it that way. It's not that they're a "family"... it's just the way they are paying the phone company every month... Puff is trying to save money and phone company is trying to make money. They are not a family.
I'm glad to see that you're doing well! You have to expect these little setbacks sometimes. And you have to ACCEPT these little setbacks. Allow yourself to have them. Just don't allow yourself to wallow in them (which I know you wouldn't do).
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
