Stubborn, You asked me over in Husband's thread about the "minimal contact" my H has with OW. I should add to that signature that it's due to extenuating circumstances.
The way my H's A was busted is: he was in a motorcycle accident with OW. He maintains "contact" with her because of that and the legal sitch surrounding it. I'm leaving out 99% of the details because it's quite complicated, but that's why.
As far as how I deal with it ... at first it was hard, still isn't "easy". However, I no longer see it as a convenient excuse for him to contact/see her, which is what it seemed like at first! But I know the A is over. Yes, he still contacts her. But he is very transparent about it. When everything is over, I fully intend to enforce NC, but I don't think it will be too hard. She's pretty much done herself in. I, too, got the "we'll always be friends" line a few months ago. He failed to understand why that was a problem with me!
