Purr has lost all hope. WAW/ MLC Second Thread

[AliSuddenly]

Believe me, woman can act in funny ways...she may appear the stronger one, doing well, getting on with her life, but I wouldnt be surprised if she ends up regretting losing you. You sound like a lovely, gentle, thoughtful kind and funny man. WOW. No wonder she said you were in the top 95% of men! Men like you are hard to find! She will realise what a good man she had. This isnt about you, this is about her. People told me that and I had a hard time believing it, but it has finally sunk in. Same goes for yuo - believe it, you havent done anything "wrong", you arent unnattractive or unnapealing, as my sister said..there are 6 billion people on the planet, you dont have to be validated and approved of by just one person.

I think its still early days, she is going through a process that could take some time to unravel, but she is keeping you in her life, she hasnt entirely walked away (shes in MC with you! she cries on your shoulder!).

It is disappointing she hasnt contacted you, but be strong, dont contact her and try and distract yourself. And go shopping, get those new outfits! And buy some new music/books to read. Get a little bit of life in you that may be surprising to her. You want to appear fresh to her when you see her next and you will see her in the MC, so you will have a chance to DB her then!

I agree with C_K, you need more confidence in yourslef. Do you think this was one of the resaons she left? Does she want you to be more of a man in a sense, be strong and attractive to her? Its a wierd one to explain, but the more confident and detached you are the more she will see you as someone to be interested in. My BF has been detached and seems strong in himself (he has depression I know) but by leaving me and getting on with his life, well, I love and fancy him more than ever! I am putty in his hands! Is this the same for you and your W, is that how it makes you feel? They are this ultimate prize you wish they would allow you access to... well then, that works in reverse too! The more sad and lonely you seem, the further away she will run.

Smile all the time when yuo see her, mention vaguely about you did this or that, make it sound like your life is carrying on without her. Dress up nice, stand tall. You can do it !!

Ali xxx