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My previous thread

Just wanted to post a follow up. I gave my WW until yesterday to give up her man. But she just can't do it. She won't promise me that she won't talk to him ever again. So, I can never feel safe, rebuild trust, feel like I am married to her fully. So, I have no other choice here.

Planning on filing this week. Don't want to do it at all. I have worked for so long to save the marriage and our family, but she has no interest. And I can't let her walk all over me any more.

Good luck to all of you. I will still hang around. Who knows, maybe there will be a last minute miracle.

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So sorry. I just read your previous thread and it sounds like you have put up one hell of a fight. I wouldn't count her out yet. Maybe it will take you filing to make her see the light. I hope so...


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Keep your chin up DMB. Kind of sucks the sitch's we're in huh?

I just keep reminding myself that I can look myself in the mirror in the morning and Like who I see looking back. Do you think our waywards can?

You know this affair will not last. They almost never do. And I just keep thinking how sad it is that the two people who cause all this pain think they're entitled to cause it.


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8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
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Hey DMB,

I'm sorry your hand is being forced by the poor actions of your W, but you need to protect yourself.

Is there a waiting period where you're at? If so, that'll give her time to come to terms with the consequences she's bringing upon herself before things are final.

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So sorry it has come to this.. but maybe it will wake her up??
take care of yourself..


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DMB,

It ain't over 'til the fat lady sings. And while I admit she's belted out quite a few choruses and refrains, she's far from done.

God is still in the miracle business.

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What a shame. You seem like such an awesome guy. =(


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Oh DMB. I am just so very sorry. Its not fair, you are initiating something you don't even want, but I feel my time to do the same is coming very soon. I am thinking of you. I agree though, the final hour may be the wake up call she needs.

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Hey DMB.....you're doing the right thing. Sometimes they have to feel the pain of their decisions before they realize what they have done. As for you, you have to follow through and move on....nothing says that you cannot re-establish a new relationship.....but now she will have to know that you are serious.


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Thanks for all the kind words-- these are tough times and it helps to read your posts.

I am not giving up!

thanks again

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