FInally Snapped.

[ACJ]

Cinders ((((((((((hugs))))))))). You did right in setting your boundaries. The way you went about it may not have been quite right but we all make mistakes especially when we are hurting. I also went about things in the wrong way but my kids are older than yours and I thought they were capable of understanding. They were but I didn't factor in how that might affect thier R with the father. As much as I don't like to see my children hurt (and hurt them he does on a regular basis) I wouldn't want them to not see him at all (although sometimes it would make me feel better if that is what they chose).

I think what you need to try to avoid now is what happened to me. My Hs OW has never contacted my kids (to my knowledge) but she has made sure that I knew it was her responding to TMs that I sent H. My reaction was to remind her that he was MY H. Hs reaction (obviously influenced by her) was to send me a letter from his L banning me from contacting him at all (even about the children) on his mobile. So OW has made sure that she reinforced as little communication between my H and I as possible. He doesn't even reply to emails that invite him to events that the kids are involved in (parents evenings, sports awards etc). These emails go to his work address but he still sticks by HER no contact regime. To date communication between you and your H has been VERY good believe me you don't want the opposite.

So take a deep breath. Recover your normal composure and move forward from this incident. Keep intact your boundaries but if they are breached take it up with H and not your children. They don't need to get caught in the middle of this. I hadn't even realised that my teenagers felt like this so I don't expect that younger children would be able to verbalise it.

Angelica sent you my email please use it if it will help