I wish I had a ton of exciting news to report...but I have pretty much nothing. Not much contact with H today. It is his evening with the Ds so I only saw him in passing. I really need to talk to him tonight about wtf his reason is for being at the house. I'll be in trouble w/ my T if I don't. A friend suggested I ask him to dinner again, but I'm worried that might be pushing my luck.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
I'm done. I am dropping the rope. H pretended again last night that everything was "normal." I finally came out and asked if he had any info for me. H said he was staying at the house because I said he could when his friend got rid of his apt. I pointed out that that was a week after he told me he needed his own place. H said he will start staying at MILs. It comes down to basically he has been using me while pretending that things were getting better. He can sleep on my couch, eat the meals I cook, let me do his laundry and take care of everything else. I am good enough for that but I am not good enough to be loved. I told him I deserve more. I deserve to be loved and be happy. If he isn't willing to give that to me then I need to move on. It is time for him to go and for me to start a new better life.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
(((red))) I read your update on my thread and came right over here. This is BS!! I agree with you. He needs to move out but DO NOT drop the rope yet. This is another phase you are going through. I know it's hard to accept the fact that he was there as "I love you and I need a place to stay" but I am not convienced he knows what he wants. He wouldn't have been able to be with you in the same house if he didn't feel anything for you. Maybe it's time for a new approach from you, let's think about it.
