You are starting to sound like my T, Kalni.;) I had two assignments at my last appt. 1. Ask why he is staying at the house and 2. Ask him on a date. So I asked him to dinner which we did. As for asking him about why he is here, I am afraid of the answer and I haven't really found a good time to ask. It isn't really one of those by the way kind of questions. I will have to ask before Thursday, that is my next appt. with T.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
I see quite a few positives in your situation. Honestly, I have to fight the urge to smack my wife's "booty" lately. From my perspective I find myself wanting to do it when I'm in a good mood and feel warm and friendly towards my wife. Besides the fact she has a great booty. I'm not sure if your husband feels the same, but I would guess he isn't far from it.
Dinner, laughter and good conversation without the kids is a date. It sounds like your date went well. Take it day by day. Relax. Let go of expectations. I told John that he has to stop being a yo yo and you need to try as well. I know it's hard and I think detaching in general is the hardest thing to do right. However, it's for your own good. It doesn't mean you don't love them and don't care. It means you love yourself and care about yourself.
I'd be positive if I were you. Don't let the little ups and downs get to you. Look at what we finance dorks call the trendline. It eliminates the noises of random events. Is it up or down? From what I see, yours is up.
Thanks for the kind thought earlier. I hope you have a good week as well.
I could kiss you now Woog. I wish I would have read your post 8 hours ago. I let emotions rule my mood today. (Don't tell Forest.) I was doing good at detaching for awhile and then H started spending so much time here. Sucked me back in and I started falling for him again.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Too funny! Seems like everyone is catching Forrest-Phobia! First time he ever posted to me was to chew my butt, so I have nothing to fear but further, well-deserved chewing....
I am impressed by your self-control. You and K and Woog and John....you guys NEVER ask the questions that I ask too much. But I think it is fair to ask why H is back.
My H said again yesterday he doesn't want to tell S we are splitting. I said, I know but you can't stay M to me just to avoid telling S, it has to be b/c you want to.....I think he is 50/50 right now on that....
Anyway enough about me. Oh, guess what? Sick S again. Ear infection again. This time he did it full-out, ruptured the ear drum and everything! Now we have drainage, fun. Had to go to school at 7:00 w/S b/c I hadn't made any plans, since I played Hooky on Friday.....
Anyway glad H is still there, you are going on dates and getting spankings! The J in BBJ should stand for Jealous now....
Try to stay strong. I believe that a lot of the reason he is back is because of the "new" you. Man like a challange and strong confident women. Detaching doesn't mean you aren't falling for him. It means you are falling for him while being a strong independent woman.
Thanks Woog. I will repeat that in my best robot voice "must not be a yo yo." I got in my car this morning and saw that H had filled the tank. That is something he did for years, but hasn't done since the S. I sent him a text thanking him and got a your welcome back. Didn't hear from him until a little while ago to tell me he is leaving work but running an errand. I went to get off the phone but he kept me on. Didn't really talk about much of anything, but it was a 10 min. call which is long for us these days. I'll see what happens when he gets home. "Must not be a yo yo."
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
I know that is grammatically incorrect but it is the best I could come up with! I want someone to fill my tank, and you can interpret that however you want...........
