Karen, lwb and Jasmine thank you for replying. It is good to know that I am not alone. h makes me doubt myself! He is right when I think back I did say I a lot but it was not intentional and it certainly wasn't to hurt him. After he made the comment about that is why he is leaving I did say no you leaving cos you sleeping with someone else. When I did that I left the room and did not carry on with that.
By the way the drive home - we both sat in silence, it wsa just when he dropped us that it got hairy.
When I db, and when I detach he says I am cold towards him. I know what he wants...he wants me to fade into the background and be happy and loving to him when He needs it. oh and I am never suppossed to have feelings. I am suppossed to be as REM says on of those shiny happy people!
