Im not at her beck and call anymore. Just wondering why the hell she seems to draw me back.
Because you care and still love her. I went through the same ordeal for the better part of two years. I got to the point I couldnt be the "fallback H" to help her with stuff that she had a perfectly capable OM to do. Of course, I will always love my STBXW, but I wont put myself through the bullshit anymore.
Funny how all her OMs couldnt fix the car, or fix the house, or fix the toilet..I already pay CS, so she cant bug me about that.
But it is funny how they think they are happier without us, and they are for a while..till reality sets in. Meanwhile, we GAL and at least act happier. They notice, they might not show it, but you can see little snippets of displeasure in them. So, they use anger as a way to vent their issues to us to make us look bad to make them feel better..keep that in mind.
I assume you have kids. If you do, the money should only be used to help them, not her and OM. As long as she knows you are her bank..she will keep withdrawing.
I u want, check out my last topic on here. It basically was my full detachment saga...with the help of my new friends RMG and Dodo. My D will be done in a month. I just got sick and tired of the drama. Believe me, unless they deal with their own issues without your help, this will be a vicious neverending circle for you. And it wont help your PMA or GAL.
But it sounds like you are starting to understand it all. And you dont have to turn your back completely. Thats for you to decide. Just draw your lines with her.
And one more thing I learned...the LBS has a tendency to put more signifigance on something that isnt there..so read into things carefully.
