Quite frankly, alimad, she is the selfish one. It isn't like your life hasn't taken a huge hit. And when you try to do something for help with the marriage, all she can do is think of herself.
Hell, think about this for a minute. How do you feel? You're trying and she jams it in your face.
But here you are at DB and DB says if something isn't working, do something different. So if calling and talking about things isn't working, stop talking asking about her plans and don't tell her what you are doing in an effort to rectify the situation. Let her call you or at the very least allow a cooling down period.
