Wife has filed, and on we go

[grid, lost]

I think not being readily available to H is good DBing. Maybe let him come by for a half an hour then you have to meet friends and leave. I don't think it's cutting him off at the knees or forcing him to cut you out.

ok, thanks for your input Mike. Need to hear things from a guys view point.

She wants to see me again when she comes to town.

So nice to be wanted and appreciated. Now what are you going to do? I have thought about dating someone and then I think, what do you do? I am not D, haven't finished my R with H. Yet I am longing just for companionship, etc. Would be so wrong of me to use someone or have them invest emotions in me and then drop them.

It feels nice to be wanted by someone again.

Yes, I bet you do feel a lot better. WAS, are so cold and mean.

I'm thinking about it but wouldn't pick a friends sons wedding to show up where W is with another female on my arm. That night is about the bride and groom not about our drama.

Mike, you do not realize what a kind and considerate person you are. Honest, have not seen you write a word about hurting W for all pain she has put on you.
I have dog show tomorrow so going to post and jump of computer.
later,
grid, lost

[grid, lost]

I think not being readily available to H is good DBing. Maybe let him come by for a half an hour then you have to meet friends and leave. I don't think it's cutting him off at the knees or forcing him to cut you out.

ok, thanks for your input Mike. Need to hear things from a guys view point.

She wants to see me again when she comes to town.

So nice to be wanted and appreciated. Now what are you going to do? I have thought about dating someone and then I think, what do you do? I am not D, haven't finished my R with H. Yet I am longing just for companionship, etc. Would be so wrong of me to use someone or have them invest emotions in me and then drop them.

It feels nice to be wanted by someone again.

Yes, I bet you do feel a lot better. WAS, are so cold and mean.

I'm thinking about it but wouldn't pick a friends sons wedding to show up where W is with another female on my arm. That night is about the bride and groom not about our drama.

Mike, you do not realize what a kind and considerate person you are. Honest, have not seen you write a word about hurting W for all pain she has put on you.
I have dog show tomorrow so going to post and jump of computer.
later,
grid, lost

[grid, lost]

<Your sich I think H was maybe trying to "accidentally" run into you.>

Christa,
I agree with Mike. H was out doing a little sideline hunting.
grid, lost

[christarn]

Thanks for your input grid!!! It's my gut feeling too!! I just wish he would ask, instead of being like that...ya know!

thanks guys!
Christa

[micoms]

Grid, Christa,

I am starting to think about dating, W is full speed ahead with the D. Maybe her seeing or hearing I'm dating/moving on will cause her to rethink her position or will it solidify her wanting the D?

Christa, I did go into her room, she was unable to walk very well, so I put her on the bed and left, although she did want me to stay, she even puled me down on the bed with her. I would like to keep the Chevy, but no money to give her half of what it's worth. And no money to work on restoring it. I've had it over twenty years. It had 106k miles when I bought it, now it has 116k.

Mike

[grid, lost]

It's my gut feeling too!! I just wish he would ask, instead of being like that...ya know!

Christa
What if you ask him? Would he go all negative on you?
grid, lost

[grid, lost]

I am starting to think about dating, W is full speed ahead with the D. Maybe her seeing or hearing I'm dating/moving on will cause her to rethink her position or will it solidify her wanting the D?

Mike
Well appears in just a few weeks you are going to be free to date and why not? Mike did you ever ask the judge for MC time?
just wondering.
H was in town or rather is in town. He said he did not feel like dinner on Thursd. evening although with a cheerful voice said he would like a rain check as he'll be back in couple weeks.
WE shall see what takes place. Backing away from him seems to be ok, he is not negative or anything and I do not get hurt.
grid, lost

[micoms]

Grid,

Seems being unavailable for S seems to draw them closer somewhat, I guess it piques their interest what we are up to.

Friends son is getting married in two weeks, I asked W if she would go with me. She said she's going to spend the night at a friends house, I know the friend and her H also. She said she would sit and dance with me but is afraid that I will get my hopes up if we date. I told her I'd like to see you from tome to time so you can see I'm making changes in my life. That maybe the D is a good thing, the old M is dead work on a new R. She does want to be friends. She did ask why I don't I bring the woman I'm dating to the wedding. I told her I'm not dating anyone, she said yes you are. I'm only meeting a friend, is what I told her to talk about our siches, she's going through a D she doesn't want also. Really I'm not meeting anyone.

On the other hand the friend I met for drinks has been calling almost every day. She's going though a separation. Her H left her and came back and wants to work on M, she has left him now (before we ran into each other I should add), and doesn't want to work on M, sounds like some of the threads here, LBS becomes WAS. She lives in N Carolina and comes to town every 6 to 8 weeks. She has made me feel attractive and wanted something my W hasn't done for me in years.

I have signed up for another coaching session on Monday. Also have a court date for support and property division on Monday. I guess I'll find out how much I'll have to give her a week, she wants $300/week.

Mike

[grid, lost]

She said she would sit and dance with me but is afraid that I will get my hopes up if we date. I told her I'd like to see you from tome to time so you can see I'm making changes in my life. That maybe the D is a good thing, the old M is dead work on a new R.

Hi Mike,
You sound down in your post and hope as you are reading this your spirits are up a bit. W is at least willing to see you. that is more than I have. I really feel for you Mike as one can just hear your heart break in between the lines.! Maybe the D is best, as they say, God closes one door and opens windows. We both have to try and keep that in mind. You must keep telling yourself, What a good person you are, your very thoughtful of others, kind an have a big heart and a good sense of humor. Humor never hurts even in times like ours. I have at present lost my humor. GRRRRR.
H is no talk, just nothing and I guess it is time for me to take the band off and look towards starting a new life and R. Cannot live my life alone like this. Even ask H what he thought about me out with other guys and his answer, I don't know and guess I can't judge after all of this. translate, do it! So sad. I guess what hurt the most is not even having a chance to say boo.

She lives in N Carolina and comes to town every 6 to 8 weeks. She has made me feel attractive and wanted something my W hasn't done for me in years.

Someone has fallen for you Mike!!!! Can't imagine why!

I have signed up for another coaching session on Monday. Also have a court date for support and property division on Monday. I guess I'll find out how much I'll have to give her a week, she wants $300/week.

This is good. Any idea what you'll try to focus on? Just curious. Have thought of another session but since H wants nothing to do with me or R what is the point? Maybe I should have another session just to get permission to move outside the M. Keep posting here as you need the board community support to help get through the months ahead. I have read a lot of posts where the D went through and then the couple ends up getting back together. This maybe the course your M is going to have to take.
Well guess I'll go check out e-Harmony. Whet H****! Right.?? lol
grid, lost

[christarn]

Mike...stoppin in to check on you!! How was the wedding? How was your W acting?

Have you had any more beverages with your friend from out of town? It must have made your guy meter go thru the roof when she wanted you to stay...but your a gentleman! And she's still calling you....even more reasons for the guy meter to go hey wire!! totally awesome for your PMA! And you're well deserving of it!

Only you will know when and if it's time to date. Your heart will tell you!

I moved my thread over to the WAW section. Thought I might get some more feed back...we shall see! I have one going on here (newbies) also. One positve in my sitch. My sister ran into my H, and another of my favorite pubs this weekend...rather crazy i think, two weekends in a row, he's 30 miles away from home...and hanging out at my fav. pubs...in a town with at least 30 pubs if not more???? let me know your thoughts on that one!

hugs 2 ya
christa