grumpyeby, Thanks for the encouragement! Being separated is almost like living in limbo...at first I thought there was no way I'd ever be over him, then I realized that life went on without him here, although not life like I have always hoped it would be. Yet, because I'm committed to my husband and our marriage, I can hardly think about moving on because there's still a chance that he'll come back. And after being married and then going through this affair, it's like everything we talk about leads us right back to our relationship. If I tell him about something funny one of the kids said on a night he wasn't here, I'm automatically thinking about the fact that he wasn't here and he should be, etc.
I feel like I do a good job not being pitiful in the relationship talk...a vast improvement from where I was a few weeks after he left. We are also able to joke about our situation (to some extent), and being friendly definately feels better than constantly being at odds.
I hope all works out well for you. I'll have to visit your thread so I know more about your situation. Have a great day!
