Yes, dialoguing is the process that I hope my W and I will be able to learn too.
From what I've read from Sara, and others who've attended Retrouvaille, it's one of the most effective ways to successfully face the challenges of piecing a marriage together again. I hope you can begin using that approach to communicating again.
Thank you HFF and Mo2C for answering my question yesterday. I too am saddened to hear that a separation might be where you are headed.
I have been separated from my W for one year and one week, and it has not been easy. My situation is different than yours because we have no children and my W has not wanted to work on our marriage (I believe W and OM are building a deeper R - it's been 15 months), so it has been a lonely state of limbo for me, DBing to the best of my abilities, but not seeing much to be hopeful about. However, I am a very patient person with a strong faith, so that is what keeps me going.
Anyhow, I do sincerely hope that you HFF and MO2C can keep the channels of good communication open, and dialogue as best as you can, for that will ensure that you both will grow and evolve in a positive direction no matter what happens.
Best wishes,
LG
Me 46 WAW 45 M 21 yrs
WAW: "I need to be alone" 12/06 W moves out 3/07 Mediation finalized 08/08
