About four months into our separation W told me, "I hate you, I wanna kick your teeth in."
Good News: They only hurt the ones they love.
Bad News: You've got a long way to go.
She hates you because you are not letting her have EVERYTHING she wants EXACTLY as she wants it. They have the emotions of a 2 yr old. it's probably best to respoond to her as such and ignore her until she is through with her tantrum. That may take months.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.