Husband's Mid-Life Crisis

[addie]

Hi nlt,
I was out of town with S11 last week for his spring Break.

Sorry to hear the D will be final so soon. There is always hope if you are willing to wait.
Don't initiate contact with H. Let him contact you. When he does come by the house to get his things, be friendly around him, smile if you can. It will be the hardest thing you've ever done - you will have to prepare yourself mentally for this beforehand. Clean the house, make sure you look good.
If he starts to say mean things, do not get caught up in what he's saying, just validate his feelings by saying "I'm sorry you feel that way..." This doesn't mean that you agree with it. If you have started any new activities, casually talk to him about some of the things you've done without making it too obvious. Say goodbye in a friendly tone when he leaves and wish him a good day. If you can do any of this, it will make him curious and get him thinking.
Anything is possible. Less than 2 months ago, H told me it was over and he was going to file for D after he found out I contacted OW, and just yesterday he talked to me about the possibility of moving back here and taking things very slow again. This is all due to DB. I don't think it's totally over with OW but he is having serious doubts.

nlt read other posts - this has helped me a great deal and keep posting.