Confused as Ever

[Snow White]

He sent me a text saying fine I will go there tonight. I called and asked that he speak to me on the phone not text me about important things. I then asked if he wanted me to pack his things and he could pick them up on his way down there. He was taken aback. I know that this has been discussed before and now he is shocked that I would like him to leave.

H - That is what you want?
Me - you will not stop having an affair?
H- Why do you think I'm having an affair???

(Can he really be this out of it - or think that I am. I do not believe that anyone can be a friend after they had sex, but second would you call just a friend from our vacation or at 4:30 in the morning before we leave on our drive?)

H - I just like talking to her sometimes... this is his only explanation.


H - what do you want me to say.

My response - I want you to say, I love you I have always loved you, I am sorry, I made a mistake and I would do anything to take it back and will do anything in my power to fix it because you and D are the most important people to me in the world. But I know you aren't going to say that so I would love it if you could just be honest and say what you are feeling.