So far, I am a real failure at that!!!! I am still job hunting. Trying to take a quick course in finances since I now have to handle all that on my own.
I am not doing anything to make myself happy, but on the good side I am not just lying around being miserable! I have lots of work to do!!!
I am not doing anything to make myself happy, but on the good side I am not just lying around being miserable! I have lots of work to do!!!
Ok Girlfriend, take your time and grieve. That's ok, but don't take too long. Life awaits you and it's still going on. Take it from me. There is a LOT of happiness ahead of you. Right now it's hard to imagine, but you will feel so differently 6 months from now and even more of a difference 1 year from now. Heck, you'll even look back with a whole different perspective on your marriage and what really was. Truth is, we tend to only remember the happy times when someone is threatening to take our security blanket away from us.
Anyway, I've thought of you a lot lately and I'll be sitting back cheering you on!
but on the good side I am not just lying around being miserable!
Well sounds like you are doing the right thing.
A teleevanglist made some good points. I know they are not always the most honest but I did like this. When you are sad do whatever you gotta do sad. At least you get what you gotta do finished and you may or may not feel better. The alternative is you get nothing done and you will not feel better.
Another thing I read is for people grieving a death but due to situation cannot stop what they are doing. 'Take 10 minutes a day and allow yourself to do nothing but grieve'. It may help I do not know but it costs nothing.
This is a wound like any other. It's gonna take time to heal. It's a process some are faster than others but I believe the general guidelines in the DB and DR books are sound.
Keep it up Mattie we are rooting for you.
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin
