MMC,

Oh okay. I understand now. It seems as if the real work starts with reconciliation and following (i.e. keeping the changes going). Thx.

HopeforFuture,

I was having trouble finding that connection between my H and I. My H and I were not aware of Michele's books and her wealth of knowledge. I believe that Mo2c has the advantage of having the knowledge of Michele's books. Had I known that I held many of the misperceptions about marriage Michele talks about in her books I would have seen that our problems and feelings were not only normal, but could be overcome.

Healing the relationship really has to start within yourself. If I were in Mo2c position I would do a lot of soul searching, read all Michele's books, and try to find my own happiness. I believe that at times the the unhappiness we feel can be a result of our own personal unhappiness, attitudes and issues and it is reflected in our relationships and that will follow us from relationship to relationship. I would also read the 5LL and try to better understand my H's love language.

Michele explains it so much better than I ever could. Love is a choice. You get out what you put in. The quote Sara posted above say's it perfectly. Start with a beginners mind



Last edited by HOPEFULinCALI; 03/31/08 11:20 PM.
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Role Reversal(original)
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T: 9 yrs
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