As for my level of commitment, my philosophy on this has always been that I can't make a decision on the M until it's the best we can get it. I want the M to work, and I'm committed to doing my part. I want to be convinced that we're both in this together, not one more than the other.
Hi, just wondered if you would mind explaining in more detail what you mean by this statement. I ask b/c it sound similar to what my H told me. Not about a decision, but he said that he didn't think I was putting very much effort into working on the M. At the time, I was doing the best I could do. As I tried to tell him, I was trying to get to the place just to be "willing to be willing" to work on the M.
It kind of sounds like you are waiting to see if she is going to put 100% into the R before you make a decision about the M. But, wouldn't that put you in the place of "score keeping"? I'm sure I didn't understand what you were saying.
Anyway, just wondered what you meant.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
