Please help...need MLC advice

[tpaschal]

don't be nervous. I think your response to the D vs no D is PERFECT!!! don't take all the blame for your M problems, your H has just as much if not more to do with it.

Thanks, Momof2!

I know that he is WAY more than 50% responsible for where we are right now, but I don't want him to have any excuse to say that the C session was just about attacking him or pointing out all the things he's done wrong. I'd rather he see that I am committed to change and to a NEW relationship with him. I'm not really that concerned with assigning blame.

Does he still live with OW?? You may also want to bring up that you are not sure how to handle someone else in your childrens lives.

As far as I know, OW does still live with him. But when discussing visitation, H's L said, "The standard is no overnight visitors of the opposite sex, but I see here that you have requested no contact? Is that right?" And I said yes. She asked my H if that was okay with him, and he said yes. Didn't seem angry about it, but was very quiet and subdued. Seemed like he had the weight of the world on his shoulders.

But I'm sure if a D becomes final, that will change. It DOES concern me, especially because D14 is so angry toward her.