If your wife would read it.....it would be great, but I'm afraid that right now she is too upset with you and will think that you are just trying to "fix" her or force her to stop doing what she is doing. Maybe in a few weeks you can get it to read. The DR book is more important. The reason that other book was so right for me to read was b/c it was telling me that the OM I was flirting with over internet and having EA with was only fantasy and that even if it turned into a R or M that it would last 2 years at best, then I would find myself unhappy and in the same stitch as I already was. Then I would go after OM and another until I was headed on a downward spiral in a frantic search for happiness, but it wouldn't happen b/c I had short-circuited what a woman needs in her soul/heart to be happy with a man. It was scary enough that it got my attention. I also don't believe that women were designed by God to jump from one man to another without it affecting in that way. This is not a religious book....that is just my personal belief. I know back in the Women's Lib Movement when everything was about make love and not war and everyone was sleeping with everyone else......they tried to make it sound "normal"....but it isn't. It's hard for me to explain, but I don't think sex has the same affect on men and women. I don't mean that to sound wrong or offensive, but God made the woman's desire to be for her husband and when she starts all this jumping from man to man, it messes her heart & mind up big time.
Like I said, that is just my personal belief on it, but that book (which is not Christian based) still backed up what I believe.
Michelle's book will help you a lot. She has a lot of articles and even the first chapters to several of her books here on the board. If you haven't read them, I'd advise you to look them over b/c they are great.
Take care.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
