kiki- I'm so sorry he has to be such an a$$. I think I have told you before that he reminds me a lot of my XH...I think it is the guilt that makes them so angry.
I was reading RCR's post to peacetoday and thought of you...
Originally Posted By: Rollercoasterider
There is the possibility that those who express their emotions in Monster have less Limbo and perhaps go through, not fast, but faster than those who seem milder. I'm not saying this is so; it's merely a thought. I'm also not saying Monster is thus good. What I'm saying is that suppressing emotions is not beneficial in this.
Your H also seems to be getting angrier and for no reason. I just wonder if he is still denying or if he is trying to process.
Originally Posted By: Rollercoasterider
You discussed the cyclical nature of the tide, how waves come and go. But also consider the proportion of force that is noticeable above the surface versus that below. For a more visible analogy, consider an iceberg. Only about 10% of the mass of an iceberg is above the surface. Your MLCer is processing things internally and most are not noticeable during the crisis, or during much of the crisis. He appears to be moving slowly because you cannot see the growth. Something you told him a year ago is beneath the surface. It is filed away, but available for processing when he is capable. Perhaps this is one reason Time is twisted.
So, if there is this turmoil on the surface for your H, we can only imagine what is going underneath the surface...and he can't keep this up forever when you are giving him no justifiable cause.
Hang in there kiki...things will get better. Keep doing what you are doing.
