Hey Kiki- how far is the drive from here to you? ABout 3 hours? Thinkin' just thinkin'. D11 is with her dad this next weekend and I dont think there are any softball games...hmmmm.
I understand what you are saying about the "lonliness" I think sometimes that is what pulls my heart back in to him. It stinks..but I think we are "Getting it".
Our mediation as you know was in DECEMBER!! His lawyer messed up the papers and it has just lingered on..cant believe your H is so stupid NOT to get this done. GOOD GRIEF!! You know, I was thinking about my situation the other day --- H's lawyer hasn't gotten the latest set of papers done and well I wonder if cause there is no more money??? don't know.
Hmmm back to thinking back to thinking....you are doing so well since the holiday time. SO MUCH has changed for both of us in such a short time. so much!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
I would love to wtite you a post filled with all the beautiful words we long to hear explaining why they say the hateful things they do.
It still would not matter to me. Time out for the bullshitz and time out for being rude! Plain and simply, it's time out.
I often wonder if we will ever "Get that".
I won't. I find it hard to "get it" at all.
If by "getting it" means that we can be stepped on, disrespected and tossed aside without thought to our feelings and especially the childrens, then perhaps it is time we "get it" and "give it" back?
I'm sorry you have to hear this kind of nastiness from him. It's what he wanted. He should be happy. But me thinkest he is not.
One way or the other we are going to learn to take care of things they can't. Things are much easier and you do not have to hear the vomit.
Hugs
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
kiki- I'm so sorry he has to be such an a$$. I think I have told you before that he reminds me a lot of my XH...I think it is the guilt that makes them so angry.
I was reading RCR's post to peacetoday and thought of you...
Originally Posted By: Rollercoasterider
There is the possibility that those who express their emotions in Monster have less Limbo and perhaps go through, not fast, but faster than those who seem milder. I'm not saying this is so; it's merely a thought. I'm also not saying Monster is thus good. What I'm saying is that suppressing emotions is not beneficial in this.
Your H also seems to be getting angrier and for no reason. I just wonder if he is still denying or if he is trying to process.
Originally Posted By: Rollercoasterider
You discussed the cyclical nature of the tide, how waves come and go. But also consider the proportion of force that is noticeable above the surface versus that below. For a more visible analogy, consider an iceberg. Only about 10% of the mass of an iceberg is above the surface. Your MLCer is processing things internally and most are not noticeable during the crisis, or during much of the crisis. He appears to be moving slowly because you cannot see the growth. Something you told him a year ago is beneath the surface. It is filed away, but available for processing when he is capable. Perhaps this is one reason Time is twisted.
So, if there is this turmoil on the surface for your H, we can only imagine what is going underneath the surface...and he can't keep this up forever when you are giving him no justifiable cause.
Hang in there kiki...things will get better. Keep doing what you are doing.
It has always been Tues. Well , I stuck to my guns. I am not a pathetic puppet waiting to be told when and what.
H called. He said the schedule has never been that way. I just told him I was forwarding HIS emails to me stating that. I told him it wasnt changing and that is that.
