Still in love with my waw....after divorce

[Bill_S]

Good point. Ive rolled over for years. Ive told her Ill be there if she gets into "real" trouble but I wont pay her way. Shes badly in debt, a $1000 cell bill etc...in way over her head. Ive paid off utility bills I was in the house for. Just recently loaned her $250 for the gas bill and made sure she knew it was a loan (she said she would pay me back on her next payday). I dont jump when she wants anymore. She 3 times now wanted me to "back her up" with this guy who is a semi-stalker. I did....shes little. She said she hoped I would loan her all the money for her cell bill....I didnt. I even suggested she ask her boyfriend but she said hes poor! She spent saturday night into sunday morning with the guy. But didnt have money for gas to get back from his place. He LOANED her $20 and said she had to pay it back!!!
Just dont get it......

Now shes talking to about him....some "red flags", some things hes done (cheated and talked badly about her, dirty texts with other women etc). Telling me "hes not THE one", "hes a liar" but yet shes attached herself. Id like to know why Im suddenly ok to tell everything to?

Ive explained she chose this life and she needs to face the consequences. As much as it bothers me. I wont be her crutch when life gets her down or she cant pay her bills.