Just a quick update, the dinner didn't happen, she canceled that morning because she hadn't done anything to get ready for the trip to her cousins for the long weekend. She and the girls were leaving late the next morning on this trip to visit her cousin and her girls. My girls even voiced some concerns because mommy hadn't done anything to get ready for the trip.
She says she still would like to go to dinner yet hasn't offered up a day or time. (Believe none of what they say and half of what they do...)
What's interesting to note here is this lack of preparedness is not something she historically has been know for doing. In years past she would have been nearly ready days before so that the night before only minor things would need to be done. Well I guess all that stress that was created because she had a husband to worry about too in such situations is gone. Now she can't seem to get anything done on time.
BTW, she just hired a cleaning service that will also help her with laundry. Wonder if she will ever realize all the housework I WAS doing. Of course one of her reasons for walking away was because she felt everything was her responsibility and she didn't get the support or help she felt I should be providing. Interesting how she conveniently forgot I was doing all the grocery shopping, a good bit of the cooking, at least half of the laundry, got the kids lunches together and took care of them each morning, too care of the cat, dog and fish and most of the general picking up around the house. Oh let's not forget car care, home maintenance too.
No I am not bitter about all of this but I would like some recognition for what I was doing. Well now I have my own place to worry about and I know I am doing these things for me and the girls and that's enough for now.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
