R2C - Thanks for comment. I'm speaking to my sister tomorrow to get book for me to her house as was not in the shops when i looked today.
Also, it seems this sort yourself out accept the sitch and just pretend your not bothered and be your partners mate is the general first step.
I have definitely been a different person to that she fell for and I'm working to get that back. She has had depression for a long time and then PND to add to it and it is hard to live with, although if I knew then what I know now about it and also where I've gone wrong in the R, I'm not sure we'd of got to this stage.
I've not given up hope yet, will read the book and we've 2 family holidays in May and June, so hopefully some progress will be mad by then.
How do other cope with that fine line though between being understanding, trying to make these changes but then being spoken to like chit, being be littled, talked down too etc at times ?
I tend to take so much then bite, but working on it
