I think it is the contstant snooping that is wrong. When you look at their cell phone 5-6 times a day and there is really no reason to. But I totally think you SHOULD snoop if you are in need of answers that you spouse isn't telling you. And let me tell you from my experience, it is such a wonderful feeling to snoop and find nothing. Especially when you are prepared to find something.

Sara

Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08