H never came back 5

[AliSuddenly]

Hi Michelle, well I'm sorry you saw all that stuff, god I thin kyour marvellous for handling it, I'm not sure I could have. No wonder you are mad at him! At least he covered it up, yes!

It sounds to me like he was just being a bloke...he wasnt thrilled she was coming, he wanted to see you, he told you he may break up with her...then she arrives and what does he do? The cowardly thing...you and him are broken up and its a big deal to come back to you, thats a big reversal of a decision. Meanwhile hes got some girl handing it to him on a plate and he just took it...whislt if she REALLY knew that he had spent time with you (and some!) and what he'd done and the things he'd said, she probably would have gone nuts at her! I think I am saying that I reckon he just used her for a week or two there as that was easier to just leave everything as is, and then let her fly off again. I guess he chickened out of ending it.

I think you are probably acting quite cool and whatever around him, and on the IM and he may well be confused by that and also, he seemed to assume you were going on a date the other night. He may have thought you'd got blown out by the other guy and maybe thats why he was sulky..huh, well why should I step in then, be second choice?

SOunds like you do need a bit of an honest chat, but you are too upset at the moment so it probably wouldnt go well. Wait till you are less emotional? Or wait for him to contact you? And definetly NOT on IM..if he starts a conversation over IM, I'd make sure he knows you want to have the conversation (i.e dont say, oh gotta go!) but tell him explicitly you'd like to talk to him face to face and not over IM. Dont let him get away with doing it on IM or email as that is also cowardly.

I think your H is being a bit weak at the moment and wants the easy route. I dont imagine he has a big love for that OW at all.

Ali xxx