I think you told me you are a policeman. My wife is trying to provoke me into a DV situation everytime she comes home drunk. I don't drink (smoke or gamble). What i would like to ask you is, would it be better for me to go to the police whom I know very well and tell them that there is a problem in my house and here is the story with the theme that she is trying to provoke a DV issue so they are aware. I understand that in NJ all you/I have to do is raise your voice and she can call and say " I fear for my life" and bang they come and take me away. My L told me that if I felt that was what she is trying to do go directly to the PD and report it. She is coming home very drunk and trying to provoke anything she can which is very uncomfortable. I am recording the comversations to protect myself and to show how calm I am and how angry she is. She is very mad at herself. The L's are going to get together in the near future and we are going to try to get her out of the house in a comfortable and legal way. She needs to get rid of this anger and i think if she was in a small one bedroom apartment with no responsibility for a while her anger may disapate. This is all very difficult.
