Enrique Iglesis song that hits a chord everythime I hear it
You, do you remember me?, Like, I remember you? Do you spend your life, going back in your mind to that time?, Cause I, I walk the streets alone, I hate being on my own, and everyone can see that, I really fell, and I'm going through hell. Thinking about you with somebody else.
Somebody wants you, Somebody needs you. Somebody dreams about you every single night. Somebody cant breathe, without you it's lonely. Somebody hopes that one day you will see, that somebody's me. That somebody's me. yeaa...
How, how did we go wrong? It was so good, and now it's gone, And I pray at night, that our path's soon will cross. What we had, isn't lost. Cause you are always right here in my thoughts..
Somebody wants you, Somebody needs you. Somebody dreams about you every single night. Somebody can't breathe, without you it's lonely. Somebody hopes that someday you will see, That somebody's me. Oh yeah...
You will always be in my life, even if im not in your life. Cause you're in my memory...
You, when you remember me?... And before you set me free, oh listen please...
Somebody wants you, Somebody needs you. Somebody dreams about you every single night. Somebody cant breathe, without you it's lonely. Somebody hopes that someday you will see, that somebody's me. That somebody's me. Somebody's me... That somebody's me... That somebody's me...
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Its called "Somebody's Me". He has a CD where the first half is in Spanish and then the same songs (sometimes with different lyrics) are in English on the 2nd half.
Quite a nice song.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Oh I'm so pleased! My brother just asked me if I'd be my Nephews God Son! I'm so honoured. I'm planning to go for a visit in May/June (got our tickets) so I guess the baptism will be then. It'll be a family thing because my Dad will do the baptism.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
H came over last night to do some laundry. He stuck around for about 3 hours had some chicken soup and we talked a lot. He's still set on a D and I told him it's not what I wanted nor did I think that a D would be ok on D6. He doesn't like it when I say that so I'll do my best not to say anything about it to him anymore. He said we have to focus on being friends and helping D through any difficulties she might have with this. He said he wants us to be friends and that we can do things together with and without D but right now it's too hard. He says that this has been really hard on him too and that he can't see himself marrying again. Said that he'd have to be 110% sure if he did. He told me that we cannot build upon our R and I told him I agreed because that would be like rebuilding a house that didn't have a basement. I told him that I didn't want us to be like we were before and that we could start something new. He didn't think so. I still have time to subtly change his mind. He told me that I needed to work on my relationship with my parents and that it would show that I'm the bigger person.
Here is a list of negatives and positives from last night (more positives than negatives )
Negatives of C 1. Wants a D 2. Wants a new life 3. Doesn't want a marriage with me
Positives 1. Is not going to sue me or fight for custody!!! 2. Thinks I'm a good woman 3. Cares about me 4. Didn't say he didn't love me but didn't say he did either 5. Wants me to work on my issues with my Mom 6. Still wants to buy the apartment we live in 7. wants to be friends
He left with me softly crying but wouldn't leave until he was sure I was ok. He came over to the couch and kissed me goodbye and I told him thanks. He saked for what and I told him for talking to me. He said I'll always be here for you and we can always talk.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Your list of positives doubles the list of negatives so that's a huge thing. Another positive is that he was there for 3 hours.
One thing, When he brings up D again, don't try to change his mind about it. He already knows how you feel and has already heard the argument that it's not best for D6. Either say nothing or validate by saying "I'm sorry you feel this way" and leave it at that. If you push him to see your point of view, he will keep digging in his heels and feel justified to go through with D. If you let go of the rope, he may start to have doubts about pursuing D. This has been a huge thing for me as I would always try to get H to see my point of view. Now I say nothing or validate. Give it a try - talk yourself through it first.
By the way, congratulations on being a godmother. It will be great for you to get away with D. Sure you can email me the song.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
Hi Addie. Thanks for the advice. I will definitely drop the persuasive speel next chance I get! I need to concentrate on the positives of my sitch and learn from the negatives.
You're right a 3 hour visit is positive. I didn't even think so much of that.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Wow! Just looking at your lists of pos/neg gives hope for your M. I am impressed. And a 3 hour visit is WAY more than my H is willing to spend with me. You are definitely making big strides in this.
Remember though he came to do laundry I asked him how come he's not doing his laundry at his Moms house. He said because he's paying electricity here! Of course if he didn't want to be around me he would have done it at his Moms house.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
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