I agree with klm and dry_heat. Cake-eating big time. As it was suggested, think about what you really want out of this M and from your H. When you do have the needed talk, use "I" statements. Express your feelings to him in no uncertain terms, and if H perceives what you are telling him as demands or ultimatums, assure him that they are not. They are merely what you will and will not tolerate in your R.
I think it's time to have that talk - a M cannot work as long as there are 3 involved - but be prepared, and whatever you do, don't back down. Stick to your guns. If you waffle, your H will not take you seriously.
(((((Michelle)))))
Last edited by GoingForward; 03/31/0808:02 PM.
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