Imageer, I understand how it can make you feel. I will say this. It is a house, not a home. Huge difference.
She is still playing. She needs to do whatever she can to make it sound like she made the right choice. She will not be able to succeed.
You have incredible fortitude. This could be crushing to most people and you are handling it amazingly well.
Even if she was speaking of the school and not showing you the house, she still wants to share this with you and the kids. If she is wanting to have you and the children see the house with her, she is still holding on to you. I cannot imagine how she keeps in this bizarre fantasy world but all we can do is be loving and patient and hope it doesn't last too long.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God