Yeah, I know that. And he and I even touched on that very part of it. That it has to come from within him, that there is nothing I can do to make him feel good about himself. We both understand that only HE is in control of it. I just don't know what to do. It is very frustrating.

Speaking from experience, he would not consider IC.

Me: 38
H: 39
DS: 6
DD: 3
Married 7 1/2 years - together for 10
Bomb - 12/17/05
MOW Bomb - 12/25/05
Separated and H adamantly wanted a D: 1/16/06
H moved back: 8/06