Used perhaps, not stupid! You know that you can't control what he is going to do, so you haven't tried. He has to get through it on his own. From what I have seen, you have done everything you can to make being with you comfortable, maybe even too much so! He hasn't come out of his own confusion far enough to realize that he is going to have to make a choice. So you are waiting. And only you get to choose how long you wait, he doesn't, really!
