I posted my comment before you edited, but I still stand by it. I do agree with klm that a R talk may just be what you need at this point. It lets him know you are still interested and will give you an idea of where his head is at.
Sorry about the stuff she left, but she must be feeling insecure as well or she wouldn't have needed to. H must have felt bad or wouldn't have thrown a shirt over it.
If it was me, I'd probably have "the talk", but as you well know, I'm not very good at keeping my mouth shut...
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option