I am home & no "camper". H finally contacted me on Wednesday & promptly started an argument. I responded (of course) & we argued a little & then agreed to talk later in the evening when I got back to my room. I called my Mom after I talked to my H & I realized why he was picking a fight with me; he wasn't ready to leave the OW by the time I got home. I paged him & when he called me back (finally) I told him that he didn't have to argue with me to justify him not leaving the OW & that when I returned home & he wasn't camped out on my doorstep, it would be a "non-issue". Honesty was all I wanted & he didn't have to argue in place of it. He said he was sorry & that the last two weeks had been "tough" on him. OH PITY HIM!!! I didn't say that to him but what about the last 8 or 9 months for me??? The last 5 for sure...on my own with our brand-new baby!! Anyway...positive thinking right?? We met for dinner last night & he was all talk about moving home & how much he loves me & misses us. He even mentioned having another baby! THEN WHY WON'T HE LEAVE HER????????? He says he has been kind of rude to her over the last couple of weeks & she is getting fed up with it?? Now how can I believe that?? He did say that someone paged him & put in his pager # in error instead of the # to call back. Now that really pissed her off!! (That was how they communicated when he lived at home, through their pagers, issued by their work)!! He said he got the 3rd degree on that one. I asked him if she knew he had been seeing me & that he stayed over on Mother's day & he said no; he told her he was at his parents. How did I, his wife, become the OW?? Is this normal?? I am supposed to see him tonight when I take our baby over for his visit. I just want him to move home, he keeps telling me to not give up. I told him last night that I didn't know how much longer I could do this on my own; that eventually I would need something from him to show his desire for us to work. I keep praying that he will come home & all will be ok. But now I am worried about the extended future. For the longest time ALL I wanted was him home; I hadn't really thought too much about what would happen once he was there. His schedule is different than hers now & his days off are better giving us more time off together. I just don't know how to handle the future.
