T When you go to counseling and the counselor asks what you want to get out of this session tell him/her that you need to learn to put differences aside and co-parent your children.
don't say you want to save your M...instead when talking about the differences say you are coming from two different standpoints because you are not ready to divorce.
That way you are not begging or pursuing him, you are stating a fact. The counselor will know exactly what you mean. Is your counselor a pro-marriage?
My first counselor was not and basically she told me I was better off without H because he was lying, cheating etc...also thought MLC was BS.
I changed counselors and now the one I have is fantastic! H and I go to one together and I see one on my own because I still need her to vent...practice when I need to approach H on things.
I am still having a hard time forgiving totally. Currently, I am in one of those ruts and I think very carefully before I talk to H because I know he is trying and I don't want to come across acting like I don't appreciate it.
