I hope that we safely assume that since you are posting that you are recovering from your cold (did it develop into something else?). I can imagine that it must have been miserable to be in a hospital far away from home. You certainly can't be blamed for wanting a little support from your H. He sounds like my W is being right now - very self centered and apparently unable or unwilling to respond effectively to what I need. From what I've been reading, that can be a temporary thing, but it doesn't really make it less painful to deal with.
I also wonder if your H has to this point intentionally not connected with your daughter in order to save himself some grief if he decides to D. My guess is that he would quickly bond with her, if he would just decide to go home and leave the OW for good.
Anyway, take care of yourself. I'll be very interested to hear how you are doing.
