I would urge you not to leave. In the end you are the only one who can make that decision. I left my H thinking I no longer loved him, but had I stayed and really invested in my marriage (I am not saying you haven't) I could have saved us both a lot of hurt and anger. Of course hindsight is 20/20 I didn't know then what I know now. I can't continue to dwell on the past and all of the what if's, but you have the unique opportunity to learn from the WAW's here who also felt much like you did, but now wish they had never walked away.
It sounds like you have built up some walls around your heart. What are YOU doing to invest in you M and H. Remember you have to be the first to change. When you invest in the other person you get the same or more in return. I believe that this is where some marriages go wrong. Couples stop investing in each other and take each other for granted. Have you tried Michele's "Keeping love alive" series?
My heart goes out to you. I said the same things "I just need to get away, clear my head, it's only a sep." You are sending a strong message to your H by leaving. I only fear that you will be doing more damage than you realize
Posts Role Reversal(original) WAW now LBS part I & II WAW now LBS part III(current) T: 9 yrs M: 8 yrs WAW: Sep 06-Jul 07 LBS: Sep 07-pres.
